i asked abby the other day whether or not she had given any thought to how she was gonna do toilet training with the triplets, and she said yeah. and i said what. and she said, "i'm not gonna."
and i said......."what?" and she said, "i'm not gonna."
and, what happened next is why abby thinks i'm a good mom......i listened.
and, what happened after that is why i think abby's a good mom.....she made sense.
she said that toilet training with the twins, as i full well knew, had hardly been the proverbial stroll through the park. and she said that in thinking of repeating any of that with the triplets was more than she - or eli - could bear. so......they were leaning towards a laissez-faire approach this time around.
she went on to explain that, when the time came, she and eli would put the potty chair out and then they'd tell jack and luke and wendy what it's for and they'd see the rest of the famly using the toilet and beyond that, they wouldn't do too much more than diddly squat. which is kind of a pun.
she said that they aren't gonna engage in a contest of wills. no sticker charts, no stupid "poopy parties" which some frazzled but horribly misguided parents do. no taking them to the bathroom every however many minutes just so they can "try." none of that. none of the conventional - and even not-so-conventional - stuff. they're just gonna let it ride.
at first, i was skeptical. taken aback. eager to argue. (me? eager to argue?) but then, it made sense. it made perfect sense. "it'll happen when it happens. no sense gettin' the whole family all upset over it."
besides, i used to always tell david, back when we were "training " abby and he was more eager to get the show on the road than i was.....i used to say, "relax. how many kids do you know who go to school in diapers? somewhere along the way, that behavior drops out of their repertoire."
and david used to say, "yeah, well. why do you think it drops out in the first place? huh?"
well.........david? abby's about to show you why.
:)
